Peregrine Lake – A Weekly Webcomic Written by Trae Dorn and Drawn by Ethan Flanagan

Ever since I started making witchcraft content online, I started using a phrase “I’m not in your head, I’m in in your house.” It’s kind of a tag I end up adding on to a lot of other stuff, but I thought I should explain what I mean when I say that because I think it’s something maybe more people should keep in mind.

The first part, “I’m not in you head” should be pretty obvious — I don’t have your experiences. Like, I haven’t felt what you’ve felt or seen what you’ve seen. There’s so much in witchcraft that ends up being internal, and I don’t have the ability to truly have that shared experience with you. I’m not here to delegitimize those things, but likewise you shouldn’t assume those things can be pushed on other people.

The second part, “I’m not in your house,” is simply that I’m literally not in your house. I’m not going to smack that white sage out of your hand and wag my finger in your face. While I might tell you that I think you shouldn’t do something or that what you’re saying is ahistorical and wrong, in the end I cannot stop you from doing anything. I am not in charge of you or what happens in your home.

And for some reason some folks… act like I am?

So if you follow me on social media, you know that I sometimes end up in weird arguments that if you think about them for more than five minutes make no sense. Like I’ll make a post saying “I think this is a bad idea” and I understand people initially giving me push back, sure. Like that’s normal human instinct.

But as the conversation continues, with a few of them (not all — just a few) it becomes increasingly clear that for some reason they think I must be in charge of them. Like that I can somehow stop them from doing anything. Because let’s be clear, I can’t.

So yeah.

I’m not in your head.

I’m not in your house.

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